Florida Raised, Touching the World

In honor of Pride Month, FTM Magazine was able to sit down with Mason Fitzpatrick, a very well-known advocate and member of the community. Fitzpatrick is most well-recognized from his outpour of positivity on social media platforms such as Instagram. There [social media] Fitzpatrick has been connecting with trans men, and really anyone regardless of how they identify.

Fitzpatrick was recently featured on SNN News, a local news outlet in his home state of Florida. He [Fitzpatrick] has connected with people not only across the entire U.S, but other countries. In this time of divide, Fitzpatrick has been an inspiration of unity amongst the community and beyond.

“After years and years of growing up in a world that made fun of anyone who was different from them, I was forced into deciding whether I wanted to continue to let depression and society get me down or if I wanted to stand up and use the hate as my motivation to do anything I needed to do to make a difference in this world” Fitzpatrick told FTM Magazine.

Fitzpatrick is a Florida native, and came out to his family and friends as Transgender at 24 years old. When he was younger he found it difficult to find knowledge and education to make the decisions that would shape his life. He [Fitzpatrick] started testosterone in June of 2015 and has taken many other steps in his transition since than – such as his top surgery with Dr. Russell Sassani in Fort Lauderdale in March 2016.

“ When my platform started to grow and people from all over the world were reaching out to me to tell their stories, there wasn’t a moment that one of those stories didn’t effect me. My heart broke when I was faced with the reality of how many people in this world don’t have the resources, love or support they need to make transitions of their own. If someone who lives across the globe that has no one to talk to felt comfortable enough to talk to me, I need to do something with that. I will never take that for granted and have always wanted to continue to extend my hand for all of those that have never had a hand to grab. Just being an outlet for someone to talk to can be the difference between life or death.” He [Fitzpatrick has shared that he has spoken with people from each end of the world, in many countries.

When asked what is seen for his future, Fitzpatrick inspires to continue to help others, specifically youth. “My dream is to be able to fund a center that is opened to the LGBTQ youth that have been disowned or kicked out my their families and have free counseling available as well as living space.”

Lastly, we asked Fitzpatrick what would he provide as a message to struggling readers. His response is simple, yet packs a punch when you read it. “Never give up.” he told FTM Magazine. “ Keep pushing and don’t ever let anyone take away your dreams even for a second.” “…we have no room to fight against each other when the rest of the world is fighting against us. Exactly who you are right at this moment is perfect…. misery loves company but that doesn’t mean that you have to accept the invite.”

You can find him on Instagram: @Fitzpattymac21

Taste the Forbidden Fruit: Sneak Peek into ‘Eden’s Garden’ New Season

Elbert Ivory

FTM Magazine recently had the opportunity to sit down with Seven King, and discuss the future of Eden’s Garden which has launched into a new season. King has big plans for the future of the series and hopes to shed more light on the topic that is part of our fight for equality- the diverse cultural subsets within the trans community.

“I know it’s a blessing that it [Eden’s Garden] fell in my head and hands to not just think, but accomplish. The support from the people, internet, and all who watch the series gives me more motivation to keep going. I believe that this show is legendary just for being the first series of trans men of color and I will always sacrifice my energy to the pushing forward of the show. I think there’s a lot of work that needs to be done.”

King realizes while the road may be long, Eden’s Garden has a hand in pushing equality in the right direction.

Posted above is the official trailer. Stay tuned by subscribing to our Digital Magazine “TransMen” for our full article on King and Eden’s Garden.

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1-800-273-8255, Every Life is Precious

This is more of a serious topic that I’m going to battle today, so i you must know this could be a ** TRIGGER WARNING** for people who have self harmed or attempted suicide.

With the statistic of transgender and LGBT suicide rates climbing, i heard this song the other day on the radio at a very vulnerable time in my life. 1-800-273-8255. That’s the title of such an incredibly touching song by Logic, feat. Alessia Cara & Khalid. The title of the song also happens to be the National Suicide Hotline.

The Williams Institute did a study on the startling statistics being trans* suicide. The prevalence of suicide attempts among respondents to the National Transgender Discrimination Survey (NTDS), conducted by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and National Center for Transgender Equality, is 41 percent, which sadly exceeds the 4.6 percent of the overall U.S. population who report a lifetime suicide attempt, and is also higher than the recorded and studied 10-20 percent of lesbian, gay and bisexual individuals whom report ever attempting suicide.

Suicide attempts amongst trans men are 46%, and trans women 42%.  Discrimination within and against the LGBT community has been at the helm of the hot button issues in the media these days.

With that being said, there are things you can do to help others and yourself. There are lifelines out there. Trans Lifeline (US: (877) 565-8860 Canada: (877) 330-6366) is a non-profit hotline staffed by transgender people for transgender people. “Trans Lifeline volunteers are ready to respond to whatever support needs members of our community might have.” is what their motto on their website says. They go on to state “While our goal is to prevent self harm, we welcome the call of any transgender person in need. We will do our very best to connect them with services that can help them meet that need. If you are not sure whether you should call or not, then please call us.”

This song walks you through a young individuals perspective on the turmoils of anxiety and depression. Whether your therapy is a psychologist or music, or coloring.  Whatever you do, know that your life is important, and it’s the only one you have.

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Dusk, a Powerful Portrayal of the aging Trans Man

Jake Graf is at it again with yet another incredible film- his latest, Dusk, is a dramatic tale which follows the story of a trans man from childhood into adulthood that has claimed many titles over the past month alone. Graf sat down with us to help us share how this brilliant British film maker feels about film and the importance of Queer films. “It’s important people know this is a trans male story.” Said Graf. “That said, no matter how you identify people in the community can relate.” The storyline is based on a trans man who never got the chance to transition.

The film has won the Jury Award for Best Short at Miami’s MiFo Festival, Best Short Award from the Out & Loud Pune International Queer Film Festival in India, Best LGBT Short at the Sene Film, Music, and Art Festival, and those are just to name a few. The short is also screening in Seattle, Boston, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Tennessee, and other cities across the country.

The film includes many actors from all across the LGBT spectrum, including Duncan James, Victoria Emslie, Harry Bryant, Daniel Zagorski ,  Elaine Hallam, Elijah Harris and Elliott Sailors to name a few of the up and coming stars. I asked Graf how he picked who he wanted to portray such powerful characters. He stated that he had worked with Elliot (Sailors) before on his web series Spectrum. He (Graf) always knew that Elliot’s natural screen presence was the perfect fit- they were always going to be his (Graf’s) “Chris”. For the older “Chris”, Graf went through many auditions. At the last day, in walks the one. Sue cried when reading the script, and knew the importance of the story. From there, it was cinematic gold.

The film is second in a series – following Dawn. If you haven’t seen Dawn, you need to. It is an incredible story of true love, about a transwoman who meets a blind man who sees who she is inside- truly sees her for the woman she is. It’s her story about finding freedom. In the film Dusk, there’s a line by Chris (lead character) where he goes to say “Dusk..comes up so quickly.” It truly speaks to how fast our lives can go by. The film is only 15 minutes long, but you truly feel every second. Every flashback Chris has tugs at your heartstrings. This film is truly a message that each second counts and decisions you make change your life. It screams the message of living your life to the fullest.

“ Any time you don’t live your own identity is sad. So many people won’t be able to live who they are, they’re living a “half life”. Now you see older people looking down at 20 and 30 year olds, trans youth. They lost out on living their truth. But at the end of their lives they may be lucky enough to look upon the person they love. No bitterness or anger. “

What can be taken away from this film is so many interpretations. Personally, it left an impact on me that screams “ don’t give up- don’t miss out”. We need to take our lives and make the best out of every situation, in the blink of an eye, it could be Dusk.

FAQs : How Do Transgender Men have S. E. X.?

Jake Graf by Paul Grace Photography

That has got to be the most popular and most widely wondered about topic. Every time I get close to a cisgender guy or gal who feel comfortable asking their deepest burning questions, it’s that one.

How do I get my rock soft? How does sex work when it’s not ‘penis’ and vagina’ (though sometimes it still is in queer couples).

My mother and closest friends ask out of concern for me. Will I be able to achieve sexual satisfaction?

Some people ask me because they’re curious for themselves whether they could sleep with me. I mean, I’m dashingly handsome, you know. And who doesn’t love to try something new. I welcome this kind of attention, where overly sexualizing should not be thought of as common practice among us. Mirroring the terms others use to describe themselves is a powerful tool.

When it’s about curiosity, I’ve been trained as an educator to handle difficult questions and expand to encompass more than just an answer about myself, so I say this:

“Great question, thank you for feeling like you were in a safe space to ask a question that would otherwise be inappropriate. For me personally, I have had growth of my clitoris (the female penis?) to the point where it’s able to perform some insertion. Not a horribly big amount, 1.5-2 inches average, unless you’re a porn star. Yes, we have those too.

When it comes to sexuality I feel like our models are all wrong. We’re working toward the understanding of sexuality, sex, and gender being three different components of ourselves. The next conversation to be having is the energies we’re attracted to (masculine and feminine on two separate spectrums and not polarized ends).

As well as:

We all have ‘inside’ and ‘outside’ nerve endings that cause orgasm. Which one do you like and which one do you not? aka… Are you a top or bottom or both or neither? Because those terms are not just for gay men, we all have the same desires.

I work closely with my partner to make sure both of our needs are met and we have a collection of attachments and bedroom toys that scratch other itches.

I would definitely invite you to think of your own anatomy and how you use it for pleasure. These ideas aren’t specific for trans men.”


 

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CULTURE: I Can’t Seem to Pack When People Know I’m Trans

For newcomers and allies without inner community vocab/lingo, packing is when we use a spacer of some kind to give the appearance of a penis in our pants. This can look like this (nsfw), this, or this I guess, depending on the expectations in your race.

It’s a weird concept for me to carry around all day. Knowing they know about my body and sporting a bulge. Making eye contact after seeing them gazing .5 seconds too long because it’s tripped them up.

Granted, I’m not a packer by nature. I used to pack when my lady and I would bump and grind at the nightclubs but in my old age of 30… (having been raised in gay bars, that’s old AF)… I must confess I haven’t had a reason to wear one.

Nothing that outweighed the sweat and rubber smell it left, the heat in the summer, the floating in a public pool, the boxer lint, the losing it in my jeans and washing it and it ends up in the laundry my wife is doing and then the drier and it melts all over our machine.

…. Nothing that outweighs that….

“But Jason, what about the comfort of having something you can feel physically there?”. I do pull it out of the back of my sock drawer for that when I need it. It’s comforting… Like mac & cheese and mashed potatoes. I wear it and sing in front of the mirror reliving my glory days as a sexy lesbian stud drag king *elvis swag and overly done wink here* – it’s cathartic (if I’m using that word correctly).

It doesn’t come out as often because it hasn’t needed to. I’ve been better and better about being okay with my body as a whole. For me, packing is now only for when I’m wearing what feels like a cisgender costume.

Ten Things the Trans Men in Your life wish You knew

via FTM Magazine

Over my life as a transgender man I have had moments I wish I could have said something to someone close to me but failed to. Until going back in time is an option, lets move forward with better understanding on things we wish we could tell our close friends and potential partners. If you’ve received this article from a friend, are they trying to tell you you’re guilty of one of these points? Potentially, or they just think it was a good read and you might enjoy it.
1. You’re guilty by association
You will receive more questions about me than I will. People who are confused or curious will typically ask a person they believe can relate to them or think share similar experiences. Talk to me about what I’m comfortable with you sharing when you field these questions. If I prefer not to be outed, you could respond with a simple, yet firm “It’s not my place to answer these questions for you, I’m sorry.” If I’m open about my transition, find out how to appropriately answer or divert harsh questions. This will make you a better ally and allow conversations to flow toward critical discussions instead of focusing on sexualizing the experience. As the topic of transgender lives emerges in mainstream media, questions often fall into one of two categories “genuine curiosity” or “superficial curiosity”. The question, “What are some reasons a transman might not have bottom surgery” is different from the question “Do you have a penis?“ Knowing whether the questioner is coming from a place of good will or being malicious may help you decide how to handle these moments.
2. “But you’ll always be _____ to me” hurts
Transition in life is inevitable. While seeing your little cousin for the first time in years and enjoying the fact that they were once in diapers, one may say “Aw, but you’ll always be little tommy to me!” and be perfectly acceptable. However, in my case I may have struggled with who I was and how I felt about myself before coming out as the authentic me. This is a time in my life of positive growth and happiness and if I’ve chosen to share it with you, telling me that you’d rather remain seeing me as someone I have taken great risks to leave behind is hurtful and damaging to our friendship. Telling me I’ll always be my birth name or birth sex in your eyes can be like telling someone who struggled with depression that you’ll always see them as ‘that pathetic emo kid’ or someone who fought with self image and weight lose that they’ll always be ‘fat’ to you. See what I’m saying? Yes, we may have a long history of knowing each other before I came out and that might be hard for you to let go of or see differently. Let me know you’re trying by not using this statement.
3. Outing me can be extremely dangerous.
As positive as some of the media and support for trans people are, there is still an overwhelming amount of hatred and ignorance. Hundreds of transgender people are murdered every single year and most of these times the killer walks due to failed/no protection laws in place for me. You may think that having a trans friend and talking about it in a public setting is fine, but if the wrong person over hears you or tells their friend who tells their friend, I could be in serious danger. It being a novelty to have a trans friend isn’t worth my life. If you want to talk about it, just don’t use my name and say you’ve ‘got a friend’.
4. My dysphoria isn’t your fault
It can be tough to be emotionally involved with someone who has a hard time with self image. You yourself may feel like you’re solely responsible for their happiness but sometimes their sadness comes from a place you simply can’t touch. It is not your fault that I have places and things about my body that I don’t like paid attention to. Talk to me and find out what is okay with me and what you can do to ease any triggering of my dysphoria, but don’t take the dysphoria personally. Some relationships, trans or cis don’t end up being ‘text book’. If I’m uncomfortable with my breasts and talk about wanting surgeries in the future, being sad about that and saying things like “But I love your boobs!” or “No don’t, I love you just the way you are” isn’t supportive. In fact, it’s proof that you’ve created an image of me in your head that doesn’t match up with who I really am and that’s not a positive basis for a relationship.
5. “It isn’t the T”
Beginning hormone replacement therapy can be a HUGE moment in my life. However, following that achievement I may lash out at you or be a jerk. If I say things like “It’s the testosterone”, you have my permission to not believe it. I am well aware of the emotional changes that I’ve decided to undertake and there are countless support systems and advice articles for dealing with extra tension and shorter tempers all over Google. My mood swings and hormonal imbalance are mine to control, not yours to tolerate. I have no right to be rude to you or push you away and blame a substance.
6. How do those egg shells feel?
Don’t get so hung up on words that the conversations never happen. You know me, if we’ve been close for any period of time you know what and how to phrase questions and statements to not be offensive. Though I may not want to be an educator all day every day to strangers at the grocery store, you’re my friend and it shows me you care when you’re excited about my transition with me. Many transgender people don’t have or lose their entire support systems when they come out so I’m lucky to have you. If you’ve been around the web a time or two you’ll notice our community gets hung up on terms and words. Don’t let this frighten you into bailing on me.
7. Don’t date me despite me
If you’re interested in dating me, make sure you’re interested because of who I am, not despite my trans status. You’re not doing me a favor by being interested in me ‘even though’ I’m trans, you’re making it seem like to you it’s something that makes me hard to handle or below you and THANK GOODNESS you’re here now to be interested in me because who else would? Rude.
8. What you say behind my back is what you really think of me
When I first come out, some people might say things like “It’s about time” or “I always knew”, some may say they had no clue and some people might not believe me due to the rise of something called “trans-trending”. Whether you think I’m doing this for attention or because my friend is doing it too isn’t for you to decide. The locals don’t get to get together and vote to approve my trans status. There is no way for you to tell what has been going on in my mind for years and what I’ve struggled with personally. There are many ways to transition and no one way is perfect or the way it has to be done. Talk to me about it, find out my story if you feel so inclined. If not, just leave it alone because it doesn’t affect your life at all.

9. My pronouns mean a lot to me
Chances are I’ve chosen a new name and have preferred gender pronouns, you using them is a big deal to me and when you do it shows me that you support me in bettering my life for myself. Which should be qualities of all friends! At the beginning, you may slip or mess up but I promise I’ll be able to tell if someone is genuinely trying or if someone is making a point to use the wrong ones.
10. Thank you
If you’ve taken the time to read or share this article with someone close to you, you’ve sought out advice on being a better Trans Ally and that to me is admirable. Wanting to educate yourself to make me and any other transgender person in your life more comfortable in this time of great community and media change is worth a big thank you. There is a lot of anger and hatred in the world and in our small community and sometimes Allys can be pushed to their limits or be afraid to use the wrong words or do the wrong thing. Every single person behind us and in support of us is valuable. Thank you for your patience, your friendship and your love.

The Importance of Education on Trans Identities for Young Children

I didn’t know I was transgender until age 14. This is not uncommon in the community, and many individuals don’t know until much older. However, almost all transgender people who transitioned as a teen or adult will tell you that they can look back and see signs from their childhood. So why didn’t they transition back then?

I am almost certain that 6-year-old me would have immediately desired to transition if only I had known that it could be done. I remember thoughts of “I had a 50/50 chance and got stuck with the wrong gender.” If I thought about it too hard, it could make me lose sight of the point of living. At only 6 years old.

I remember my first health class in grade 5. The boys and girls were separated and each group watched a video about their respective puberty. Transgender identities were never mentioned. After the girls’ video, we were handed a question sheet to fill out, mostly to make sure we were listening, but also to determine our opinions on certain things. One of the questions was: I am happy to be a girl because _______. My friends and I found this a little weird, but they all wrote that they liked their voice as it was. This was the first instance in my life where I wondered if my feelings were not normal. I wrote “I’m not” and moved on.

I remember walking home from school one day with a friend. I was about 10 or 11 at the time. I asked her, “Do you ever wish you were a boy? So you could dress and act the way you want?” She answered that no, she was happy being a girl. She then mentioned how at least where we lived, girls had more freedom to act/dress as they wanted, and boys had to stick so the more “masculine” appearance to fit in. This was confusing for me, having a girl tell me she was content with her gender, and it was even more confusing that she was right. I dressed like a boy, and no one cared. What more did I want?

When I was 14, I happened to stumble across a video about a very young trans boy. The second I realized what the video was about, my world was flipped upside down. Until that moment, I thought a trans person was a man who liked to wear dresses. For 14 years, the real meaning of the word “transgender” had never crossed my path. When the video finished, I could suddenly envision my future with a clarity that had never seemed possible before. I was hopeful, excited. And yet I couldn’t help being incredibly jealous of this boy, who would be living his entire childhood as himself. I know it would never have been possible to change my sex at birth, but it would have been possible for me to transition earlier, and therefore to live my childhood as I should have.

A year later, Caitlyn Jenner came out. While this kind of visibility for the community is incredibly helpful, it isn’t quite enough. We need trans men, non binary people, and trans people of colour in the media. This kind of representation, real trans lives rather than Hollywood caricatures used as comedic devices, can help a trans person realize their identity much earlier, and so save them from any more time living in confusion.

Perhaps the most helpful thing for us to do, however, is to educate.
Parents: speak to your children about gender identity at a young age. Let them know that their gender may not be what they were told, and that’s okay.
Teachers: make sure a student’s first experience with health class isn’t riddled with cisnormativity, alienating anyone who may feel different.
To some, it may seem like a mature topic to broach with a child, but it can mean the difference between an unhappy youth, and a happy one.

By Andrew Kenney

You’ve Made the Decision to have Top Surgery… Now what?

Top surgery — that milestone that most, if not all, trans masculine folks look forward to and try to save money for. Looking through countless top surgery pictures and stories on Facebook or on other social media platforms, we can’t help but get impatient with our own transition and wonder when it’ll be our turn to feel at home in our bodies like those happy folks.

Top surgery, however, like with any surgery, is not something that you can schedule in a few weeks. If you want things to go smoothly the first time, there are some things you should be aware of and keep in mind that will make planning for top surgery more manageable.

Choosing the surgeon. Top surgery results are truly in the eye of the beholder; what surgeon works for one trans person might not work for another. While you can ask around for surgeons that people went to for top surgery, it’s good to do extensive research on them and see their before & after pictures on their websites. Most, if not all, surgeons have a website for their practice and should have before and after pictures of patients that previously had top surgery with them. If not, Transbucket is a great site that you can look through; the site has filters that you can play around with to see specific results by surgeon, type of surgery, etc. You can also see a previous post made by a fellow writer of top surgeons across the USA.

Consultations. While you can expect to pay thousands of dollars out-of-pocket or have insurance cover it (if applicable), you’ll need to find out how much your surgery is going to cost. Most top surgeries, on average at the time of this post, are generally in the range of $5,800 – $9,000 but every person gets a different quote. In order to find out how much top surgery will cost for you with a specific surgeon along with their current availability, you’ll need to have a consultation with them first. You can call a surgeon’s office or fill an online contact form on their website (if they have one) asking to set up a consultation, and they should get back to you as quick as possible. Once they do, you’ll be asked to e-mail front and side photos of your chest prior to the consultation.

In almost all cases, you aren’t required to travel to have a consultation. However, there are some surgeons (like Dr. Daniel Medalie and Dr. Kathy Rumer) who charge a consultation fee while others are willing to do it at no charge so keep that in mind.

During the consultation,  it’s good to ask the following:

  • What surgery would be right for your chest size and why?
  • Does the surgery quote include revisions or would that be extra?
  • Is there anything I need to buy or pay for that’s not included in the surgery quote?
  • Will I need to be off T and, if so, for how long?
  • How would the process work?
  • How long would this surgery quote be valid for?

Research like you’re in college writing papers. People might have given good reviews on the surgeon they’ve recommended but don’t just take their word for it. Do some looking around yourself on Transbucket. Use the search function in top surgery Facebook groups where people share their results and stories with their surgeon as well as the price quotes they’ve paid (if going out-of-pocket) or what insurance they used that covered their surgery with them (if using insurance). Remember that it’s your body and that you should take care of it!

This is a big point that I can’t stress enough and there are a few reasons for this. First reason being that no matter what these top surgeons tell you, they are, at the end of the day, looking to make money. Top surgery is getting more expensive each year and not many insurance companies (or even plans) cover trans-related care at the time of this post. As the standard of living and demand for top surgery increases, so does the surgery. There’s only a select few of surgeons out there that do top surgery with chest masculinization in mind and with good results.

Another reason is from personal experience. I had a consultation with a top surgeon who gave me a surgery quote of $6,750, my quote being on the higher end of what he charges. Had I not asked my friends their surgery quotes from him, I would’ve probably chosen him as my surgeon not knowing that he was overcharging me. My friends, who had bigger chests than I do, were given cheaper quotes and we were all getting the same procedure too. I did some more looking around and found someone who paid out of-pocket with the same surgeon and he paid $5,500. With roughly the same chest size! Granted, his case didn’t need lipo but if he did, he would’ve paid APPROXIMATELY $6,000 flat.

Thinking it all over, I’ve come down to 2 possibilities for why I got that quote: either he’s realizing that he’s getting more well known in the transmasculine community for doing good work hence why he’s raising his prices or he’s thinking he can overcharge me because I said that I will be traveling from New York City to have surgery with him. I possibly was being asked to pay more for residing in a state known to have the highest standard of living.

Moral of the story: Don’t be taken advantage of.

Surgery costs. As much as I want top surgery to be accessible for everyone, it unfortunately costs a good chunk of money. Not only that, you’d be out of commission for a while when recovering from surgery so on top of the surgery fees, you’d have to cover travel, food, bills and rent because you won’t be able to work for a while. Unless you are financially well off, have parents that are or somehow manage to raise all the money through a donation page, most people are stuck wearing binders until they can raise the money or their insurance plan suddenly covers trans-related care. There are various ways to raise money for top surgery like starting a clothing line, having a garage sale, etc. If you want to raise money through GoFundMe or through any similar donation site, it would be difficult without a social media following or without using your talents and whatever you have to offer as rewards.

If you need help pinching pennies, consider the following:

  • What could I do without?
  • Stop eating out and start cooking all your meals.
  • If I cut out <insert stuff you don’t need like coffee, drinks, etc.>, how much will I save?
  • Could I work extra hours at my job?
  • Are any of my friends working at places that are hiring?
  • Do I need to work another job in order to save up all I need?

Scheduling the surgery date. Generally you would have this worked out at the time of the consultation if you are set on a surgeon; keep in mind that most well-known surgeons have waiting lists and, you need to plan ahead with family/friends/loved ones on who would be taking care of you when you are recovering, and who will drive you to and from surgery. Most surgeons follow the WPATH Standards of Care and require you to send them a letter (or two) from a therapist and/or doctor saying that this irreversible gender-reaffirming surgery is the next step in your transition and that you are of sound mind before you can schedule a date. Most of us look at this letter requirement as a hassle but the letter provides a way for the surgeons to cover their butts legally should a person choose to detransition later on down the road and not be made liable for it.

Despite the mass amounts of planning and money required, top surgery is a very important milestone in most of our transitions, and nothing makes us light up more than seeing ourselves getting closer to the body that we not only had to work for, but were meant to have. Hopefully this post helps you navigate top surgery better. I wish you all the best of luck in your planning!

A Diagram and Labeling of the Transsexual Male’s Anatomy

Hey everyone, it’s me D. Hudson

I was thinking about my next article and I was wondering how to go about talking about our anatomy in a way that was affirming to us.

At first I thought, we could reclaim the word Vagina! And I tried to and I asked my trans guy friends what they thought of a reclaiming and a lot of them said it’s been really hard for them. That it causes a disconnect with their bodies.

My hope is that a set of common vocabulary will spread over to our sex lives and be empowering to those that want the new terms.

These are my ideas for the look and labels of the trans man’s anatomy. Constructive thoughts?

 

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Fitness Fridays: Lets Talk About Food

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Meet Tanner Michael – Trans. Gay. Pregnant. Happy.

Take a look into the life of this Rochester family. The trials and tribulations that it took for Tanner Michael to be here today. The smile his daughter brings to his life. The love and support of his partner David. The happy family of three sits down with FTM Magazine for an exclusive peek into their lives to recount the experiences of Tanners pregnancy and the impact the community has had on their choices. Four words: Trans. Gay. Pregnant. Happy.

Read his story digitally here.
Print issue releases MAY 15th

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